I see so many people talk about being the breadwinner, or the SAHM. Sometimes people get very annoyed by aspects of their partner … 1. What you see is what you get, nothing more, nothing less. You serve your spouse by how you accept your spouse at every … You didn’t marry a clone of yourself! Do not choose only one part, take me as I am, whole and such as I am, so you don’t make any mistakes. ... One of the girls has been dating a guy for a while, but now all they ever do is fight. Essentially, accepting your partner for who and what they are is a choice that frees you both to enjoy each other fully and feel good about yourselves. If you are having difficulty accepting your partner for who they, consider consulting with a therapist. By Sandra Rose. A professional may be able to help you learn how to accept a situation. I know that this is a revolutionary idea, but within this suggestion lays the seeds of peace and harmony. Accept love as they are able to give it to you. And if you did, you might be divorced already! I am what I am. They may also be able to help you to learn to manage the feelings you may have about your partner’s behaviors. Let me add a disclaimer: Throughout the remainder of this article, I am not talking about accepting abusive, dangerous behavior. Accept that just because they don't behave like you, it doesn't make them wrong. Wanting your spouse to change is like asking a cat to bark. Síguenos / Follow us! For instance, if you've learned throughout the years that your partner has a habit of being late, accept it. To accept their idiosyncrasies as a part of their, and your, life. Accept your partner for who they are. If they work do you accept the fact their job might not be high paying? Accepting others for who they are, and not for who you would like them to be, is an important step in forging healthy relationships full of mutual respect and realistic expectations. Accept that you cannot fix your partner. Reevaluate the seriousness of your partner's flaws. Acceptance is another facet of serving love. Well, no. When you start to get frustrated with your spouse check in with your thoughts. Accept that you love them. Where you once expected agreement and compliance from your partner, you’ll do better and feel better to practice love and acceptance. The glue to any successful marriage would be to accept your husband or wife as he/she is. Here are seven steps to acceptance: 1. In a relationship, it means accepting your partner for who they are. The only alternative to the typically fruitless hope of getting one’s partner to change, is to simply accept that they’re never going to. Accept that not everyone will behave as you do. Watch your expectations. Accept that your partner is not perfect. Accept the things you cannot change. Or if your spouse stays at home do you feel you accept the fact your spouse might not like or be the best house keeper or cook? 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