Here are some tips for becoming more accepting. Well, no. I know that this is a revolutionary idea, but within this suggestion lays the seeds of peace and harmony. ... One of the girls has been dating a guy for a while, but now all they ever do is fight. The glue to any successful marriage would be to accept your husband or wife as he/she is. And it can help you accept yourself for who you are at the same time. You Have To Accept Your Partner's Flaws In A Relationship. Watch your expectations. Where you once expected agreement and compliance from your partner, you’ll do better and feel better to practice love and acceptance. Or if your spouse stays at home do you feel you accept the fact your spouse might not like or be the best house keeper or cook? Accepting others for who they are, and not for who you would like them to be, is an important step in forging healthy relationships full of mutual respect and realistic expectations. I had to love him flaws and all, the same way he loved me. Accept your partner for who they are! I am what I am. Jan. 29, 2017. You serve your spouse by how you accept your spouse at every … I see so many people talk about being the breadwinner, or the SAHM. Acceptance is another facet of serving love. 1. Accept that you cannot fix your partner. A professional may be able to help you learn how to accept a situation. Accept that your partner is not perfect. Accept your partner for who they are. The only alternative to the typically fruitless hope of getting one’s partner to change, is to simply accept that they’re never going to. Accept that just because they don't behave like you, it doesn't make them wrong. Wanting your spouse to change is like asking a cat to bark. Essentially, accepting your partner for who and what they are is a choice that frees you both to enjoy each other fully and feel good about yourselves. For instance, if you've learned throughout the years that your partner has a habit of being late, accept it. Do not choose only one part, take me as I am, whole and such as I am, so you don’t make any mistakes. Síguenos / Follow us! And so, the #1 thing spouses can do to build healthy, lasting marriage, is to love and accept your spouse the way they are. Accept the things you cannot change. And if you did, you might be divorced already! By Sandra Rose. Indeed, research shows that nearly 70% of marital conflicts are perpetual and unresolvable — they last a couple’s whole life through. If they work do you accept the fact their job might not be high paying? When you start to get frustrated with your spouse check in with your thoughts. You didn’t marry a clone of yourself! Let me add a disclaimer: Throughout the remainder of this article, I am not talking about accepting abusive, dangerous behavior. They may also be able to help you to learn to manage the feelings you may have about your partner’s behaviors. Sometimes people get very annoyed by aspects of their partner … You are the very last person who is going to change your husband or wife. Accept that not everyone will behave as you do. If you are having difficulty accepting your partner for who they, consider consulting with a therapist. What you see is what you get, nothing more, nothing less. In whatever ways you and your spouse change with age, one thing about you should never change: that you accept your spouse just as they are. Reevaluate the seriousness of your partner's flaws. Accept that you love them. To accept their idiosyncrasies as a part of their, and your, life. Accept their flaws. Accept love as they are able to give it to you. In a relationship, it means accepting your partner for who they are. Here are seven steps to acceptance: 1. As they are because they do n't behave like you, it n't! 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